A Lonely 4-Year-Old’s Daily Wave Turned a Neighborhood of Strangers Into a Community
A lonely four-year-old named Roman in Concord, North Carolina, waved at everyone who passed his home. One retired neighbor waved back — and soon an entire street of strangers became a connected, caring community.
CommunityGNGV Editorial Team4 min readLast reviewed September 28, 2026
In Concord, North Carolina, a four-year-old boy named Roman was quietly carrying a heavy load. After his parents divorced and his father moved away, Roman felt lonely. But even before that, he had been waving at everyone who passed by his home. Garbage collectors, delivery drivers, neighbors heading to work — Roman greeted them all, day after day, with an open, hopeful hand.
For a while, the waves went largely unanswered. Then a retired neighbor named Wade Folger decided to wave back, and then to stop and talk, and eventually to invite Roman to join in activities. That single act of reciprocation set off a chain reaction. Other residents, who had lived near one another for years without truly connecting, started following Folger’s lead.
Before long, the dynamic reversed: the lonely child became the glue holding his neighborhood together. Roman began inviting his older, retired neighbors to his sports games and birthday parties, folding them into the rhythms of his young life. Adults who had once been strangers found themselves cheering from the sidelines and gathering for celebrations, their days made warmer by a little boy who refused to stop reaching out.
The story was featured by CBS correspondent Steve Hartman for his “On the Road” series, with Roman’s mother, Anna Butzloff, watching the transformation unfold. One neighbor summed up the quiet lesson at the heart of it all: “If the world was like this child, what an awesome, awesome place it would be.” It is a small, true reminder that community is not something we inherit — it is something that gets built, sometimes by the least likely architect of all.
Why it matters
One retired neighbour answering a lonely child’s waves set off a chain reaction on a street where residents had lived near one another for years without connecting. It shows community can be built through small, repeated gestures.
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What you can do
Wave back, stop and say hello to the neighbours you usually pass without a word.